Tale Tale signs that someone close to you has really FUCKED UP.

Sorry for the deviation from the general anime, music, manga, games. But i pose a question. What is the cut off point for someone that you don't have to deal with; Someone that isn't family, or is legally bound to you, or saved your life in a miraculous death defying manner? Just someone that you voluntarily have involved in your life. How many fucked up things are you willing to deal with for that someone? And i'm not talking about just your general fuckups, i mean those flat out, "i don't care if you paint it in my favorite color its still fucked up" fuckups. Those " there is no grey area to it, just black and white" fuckups. What if you are in need of going to the hospital and that someone that you don't really have to deal with completly avoids taking you to the E.R. to go play basketball? What if that someone really didn't realize how fucked up it was until everyone else around him tells him? What if you have dealt with some stuff that is on the same calibur of fucked up on several occasions? I pose that question.